“Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.” ~Brené Brown
All too often we are quick to pass on complements, gifts, or find constructive criticism a personal attack. Somewhere, we have lost our ability to receive.
This last weekend, I️ got the gift of going away for a solo trip with some of my lady tribe. I️ just got to enjoy being myself, by myself for three whole days. Sure, i should have been doing this more, but as a mama of a 5 year old and a 2 year old, the “right time” to get away seemed to be elusive. Receiving the break in parenting and partnering to connect with myself and my lady friends is the best gift I️ could ever receive. It still doesn’t make it easy. So while I was getting a massage, this idea of making a list on how to receive popped into my mind. Without further ado 😉
- When someone offers you a compliment, say thank you. You don’t have to justify or deny it. Receive it!
- When you receive an unexpected gift, say thank you. You don’t have to say “you shouldn’t have” or “this is too much.” Receive it!
- When you are getting a massage, a facial, a mani/pedi, hell even your hair cut, enjoy it. Try to be in the moment and let yourself feel pampered. Receive it.
- When you have an unscheduled afternoon by yourself, do something you love. Don’t waste time fretting about your to-do list. Receive that space to enjoy.
- When someone is trying to help you, don’t get mad because you can’t do it all yourself. Receive the help and know that you have a team of people backing you up!
- When constructive criticism comes into your ear, listen. See if it is helpful, but don’t take it personal. They aren’t trying to make you feel bad. Receive it.
- When actual criticism comes, tell them to eff off. We don’t have space to receive that!!
Friends, we give. We need to be able to receive so that we also feel good. So we also have full cups. So we do it have to do everything ourselves.
It is time to learn how to receive.
Start small. Learn to say thank you when you get complimented (but not back handed compliments, you tell them there is no space for that) or when an unexpected gift comes your way. From there, it just gets easier to receive 😉